here are some resources I find helpful in the process of ✻ relaxing ✻ calming down ✻ releasing:
✻ Byron Katie: The WorkI find Byron Katie's Work extremely helpful to discover our own thinking patterns. On her website you get comprehensive instruction on how to do The Work, including work sheet and videos.
→ The Work of Byron Katie
✻ EFT - Emotional Freedom TechniqueIt is proven to work and it is free to learn for everybody - trough on-line videos or the downloadable EFT manual.
Here is a (non comprehensive) list of EFT material:
→ EFT video instruction
→ EFT manual (PDF)